Monday, September 12, 2011

Date a Girl Who Reads

Date a Girl Who Reads 
by Rosemarie Urquico 

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas, and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by God, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.


{floating around the blog world bc it's awesome! originally found here}

22 comments:

Heather said...

It is horrible that I would rather shop than read? Is this grounds for no more BFFness?

Miss Chelsea said...

Hehe I love this little diddy (or is it ditty and I've just become to accustomed to Puffy??)

Rebekah said...

This is simply amazing! As a girl who loves to read and always carries a book, I appreciated it. :)

Rebekah said...

This is simply amazing. As a girl who loves to read and always carries a book, I loved this!

Caroline said...

Love it!

ashley said...

I LOVE THIS.

Cassie said...

I love this! I especially like the part that says she may glare at you when you interrupt her because she doesn't like to be interrupted. That's so true! HAHA Oh, and the smelling of books. Not weird at all! :)

Mere said...

I LOVE this!!! I've read it and re-posted it and it makes me oh so happy because I love to read and buy books all the time! :)
Have you read any good books lately? Hope you've had a great start to your week!

Rod and Alex - aka: "Rolex" said...

Hope my husband was thinking this back when we were dating!
Fun post!

Café Moka said...

I love this!!!

Emily said...

Oh my gosh this is just amazing! I love it all. My favorite line "You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet." it just made my heart happy :)

Brooke&Tyson said...

I love this so much- so so so cute!!!

Ashley said...

I saw this yesterday, too! Don't even mind reading it again, since I LOVE IT. So perfect.

SarahBeth said...

I love this. A lot. I saw it earlier this year and it just makes me smile. <3

I LOVE to read and have a boy now who likes to read as well. (Seriously, my idea of vacation is sitting on the beach or by the pool with a book. I am NOT an active vacationer.)

Bon Bon said...

Beautiful words that speak straight to my bookworm soul:-) LOVE this! xoxo

Ashley {hudson's happenings} said...

SO SO SO SO awesome. Oh how I love this. It made me smile. :D

Hollie Ann said...

LOVE THIS!

Anna of IHOD said...

This rocks. I am feeling better about my closet bookwormness. :D

Lauren said...

I absolutely love this!!!!!!!! :)

BJJ said...

I love that you reposted this! :)

Marshall said...

Michelle,
this, and your blog, and you, are amazing. oh thank you so much for coming by mine so i could find you! so excited to be following you!

Marshall said...

ps. Cam and I both are in love with books and reading...and this article is all very true and sweetly so- we have yet to have a boring day together!!