Tuesday, January 15, 2013

midweek confessions


...I have a serious case of baby fever. I even started a baby Pinterest board. All you cute lil mamas with cute lil babies on IG aren't helping either.

...I need more human interaction instead of just Jax, even though he responds with the sweetest kisses. I spend my day stuck in a book or schoolwork these days.

...I need to get my shit together. I go through workout/running spurts like no other. It's no wonder I have stretch marks!

...Most days, I have no idea what day it is.

...I love Ghost Adventures, but sometimes I get scared. Hubby and I have even made a date night out of it. We're wild ones. {new episodes on fridays, fyi}

...My husband forced me to run by a reward of Froyo. My legs were KILLIN me the next day. Yep. Wake up call. #willrunforfood #froyototallyworthit

 {will run for food face}

...I cried this week. Oahu has seen way too much animal cruelty lately. It even made the news last night. I hope to be like Miranda Lambert someday and help these fur babies in more ways then I can now.

...Seeing this picture of our Ethiopian sponsor child made my day.

...I force my husband to listen to the Biebs when a song of his comes on the radio. Muahaha.

...I'm obsessed with Sriracha and Pho. And I have always loved rice. I've been making Asian dishes a lot too. Guess them Hawaiians are growing on me.

...Hubby and I have had some marital problems lately. We've only been married for 7 months now. It's been very tough for us. A lot of factors have caused it, but mainly it comes down to communication, the most important thing in a relationship. We are working through it. Advice, tips, etc appreciated :)

What are your confessions this week? 


Cara said...

I'm so jealous of your Hawaii life. We go every summer and no joke, I was at the airport in Seattle last week for work, and it was cold and raining, and the gate right next to mine was leaving for Maui. I actually had more than half a mind to walk up to the counter to see how much it would be to change my flight and just go for a few days.

And dogs really are the best company.

Ashley said...

Uh, yeah, I think I'd run for certain foods too. Maybe that's the kind of motivation I need.

Pho! Are there any good vietnamese restaurants with pho here in central Florida?! We ate a lot of pho in Denver, there was a really amazing place there. I miss it. I might run for pho.

Sorry I wish I had more marriage advice. After almost 3 years my husband and I still have our share of communication issues. Just never give up trying and working at it... that's my best tip. ;)

Jenn @ West Sac Honey said...

I love that your loving Pho! It's my FAVORITE!

I'm sorry to hear about the communication problem. I don't know if it will help but I found that going to a counselor as a couple even for just yourself is VERY VERY helpful. It helps you learn how to develop into a better person by recognizing the traits you need to work on.

Miss Chelsea said...

I hate to see you strugglin =( I hope things get easier for you guys

Michelle said...

The first year of marriage is SO much harder than people realize. It's totally normal to have some issues, especially communication issues. It's one of those things that will be worked on for YEARS. Just keep working through it, see where the other person is coming from, stay calm, and you'll be fine :)

Christina said...

Ahh Hawaii seems like it's so awesome! One day I will make it there :) I'm pretty sure I could talk the hubby into it just for the Asian dishes!

I'm pretty sure every couple deals with communication issues at times. I think the best lesson we've learned so far is that sometimes, you might hurt each others feelings when talking about things, but it's so important to be open and honest. You just have to both approach it in that you're discussing these things out of love and because you want to stay strong rather than to be hurtful. That was hard (and sometimes still is hard) but it helped us. Just keep working at it...things will get better :)

Chrissi said...

hi friend! i have to agree with most of the women above... marriage is very tough sometimes. most people only see the pretty side when looking at other couples, but the harsh reality is we are all human & sometimes it is really hard to get along with your spouse, and even harder to communicate in a positive manor! someone above also suggested a counselor, which is never a bad idea! also agree with the one blogger who wrote the best thing you can do is NEVER GIVE UP, just keep trying! it will never go away, but it does get easier! praying for you :)


Adrienne said...

I've only been married 1.5 years, but I will tell you, making it through that first year is really REALLY challenging.

My best piece of advice is to made God the center of your relationship in every way. When things clashed for us, my mentor told us to spend at least 30 minutes of every single day- rain, shine, or exhaustion- of intentional time focusing on God together.

This means praying together, picking a book of the bible to read aloud together, or just talking about your walk.

Having a strong community of believers (and we have an older couple from church who meet with us!) really helps.

I've found- maybe this is different for others- that a lot of things in marriage fall together when the central focus is there.

Two books we've LOVED are "You Can Change" by Tim Chester

and we LOVED "Love and Respect" by Emerson Eggerichs. Seriously. It changed our marriage for life. That's a good one for communication too.

Marriage is difficult, but it's fun and amazing. Praying for you sister! Even if you don't have a strong community there just yet- you always have a community of bloggers happy to pray, help, and talk!

It's obvious you and your hubby love each other so much- you are meant to be!

Pamplemousse1983 said...

As others have said, the first year of marriage is REALLY rough. My husband and I dated for 6.5 years before getting married (even lived together for a period before) and that first year was still really freaking hard. We fought a lot, but eventually we talked it out and both made an effort and 5 years later we're still married, have a baby and are genuinely happy (though we still go through spurts of annoying the crap out of each other). My advice would be to hang in there. Talk about what bugs you about the other person (and vice versa) and keep an open mind. If you honestly both try to keep the other in your mind you'll get through it just fine.

Holly said...

Jax is adorable! And that Asian food sounds delicious :)

Well, I've never been married but I do know that the first year of marriage is the hardest. And being in a military relationship on top of that is even more challenging. But you guys love each other so I am sure that if you work through it things will get better!!

Holly said...

Oh, also, have you ever read the 5 Languages of Love? I feel like you would love that and it would be good for you and your hubs to read together!